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Thursday, 12 October 2017

Sad Good-byes.

I said goodbye to a dear friend and colleague yesterday. After being given a year to live she slipped away peacefully after 4 short weeks.  This was read by her sibling and I loved every word.

The Dash
by Linda Ellis
I read of a man who stood to speak
At the funeral of a friend
He referred to the dates on her tombstone
From the beginning to the end
He noted that first came her date of her birth
And spoke the following date with tears,
But he said what mattered most of all
Was the dash between those years
For that dash represents all the time
That she spent alive on earth.
And now only those who loved her
Know what that little line is worth.
For it matters not how much we own;
The cars, the house, the cash,
What matters is how we live and love
And how we spend our dash.
So think about this long and hard.
Are there things you’d like to change?
For you never know how much time is left,
That can still be rearranged.
If we could just slow down enough
To consider what’s true and real
And always try to understand
The way other people feel.
And be less quick to anger,
And show appreciation more
And love the people in our lives
Like we’ve never loved before.
If we treat each other with respect,
And more often wear a smile
Remembering that this special dash
Might only last a little while.
So, when your eulogy is being read
With your life’s actions to rehash
Would you be proud of the things they say
About how you spent your dash?
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It makes you think.........Back soon. Tx


  1. How sad that she didn't have that extra time that she was predicted and that her passing came so quickly. A lovely poem and it does make you think.

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    1. I'd never heard it before so I googled it as soon as I got home. Apparently Linda Ellis wrote it in an afternoon and it changed her life. It's made me think for sure.

  3. What a lovely piece of writing - it's all so true.

    1. It is very true, we look at a tombstone and the dates are the first thing we see. When it's that hyphen/dash that is most important.

  4. In 2004 decided to fill my dash with as much fun and love as possible. Even after the light goes out I will carry on as I have donated my body to science.

    1. That is wonderful Pam, it must be comforting to know you've fulfilled things you wanted to do.

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    1. Thanks Marlene, it was a shock as they'd had the op, it had all been successful in order to delay the prognosis.

  6. Too soon and I'm so sorry. There's little comfort other than the end was peaceful and she had loving friends and family at her funeral.

    1. Thank you Blossom. It was a lovely 'non religious' service. What she wanted.

  7. I'm so sorry your friends passing came much sooner than expected. It must have been a dreadful shock.
    It's a beautiful piece of writing. So true. X

    1. Thanks Jules, I'd only seen her a few days before, she'd was recovering from the op to remove the tumour and in good spirits. Very unexpected.

  8. Better a gentle quick ending than a long drawn out painful and distressing one. I speak as one who has so recently lost the beloved farmer in similar circumstances.

    1. I completely agree with you. We were just positive she'd have much longer.And it was peaceful.

  9. So sorry. A lovely poem. I am so aware now of the uncertainty of life.
    My dash will now be filled with as much positive stuff as I can fit in.

    1. Good for you, that's how it should be. I definitely more conscious of it having lost 3 colleagues this year.

  10. So sorry for your loss. I lost my friend and colleague. It will be two years this Christmas and I still find it difficult carrying on at work without her. We would be comparing notes and having a good laugh now about the antics of the contestants on The Apprentice. Her dash was significant everyone loved Helen. What a lovely meaningful poem.

    1. It is a wonderful poem, I loved every word. Suzanne filled her dash too.

  11. So sorry for the loss of your friend.

    That poem is just perfect.

    God bless.

    1. Thanks Jackie, it's been a tough year with 3 colleagues passing.

  12. The poem is so moving, and so true. We never know when the end will come so we should make every day count.

  13. Same for our friend B., but she lasted just 17 days:( Sorry about your friend, lovely poem.

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  15. So very sorry to hear about your friend. The poem is lovely. We should all try and make our dash count as much as we can. It's quite often the little things that are remembered as being the most meaningful. xx

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